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NO MATTER HOW OPTIMISTIC you are right
now, if you became even more optimistic, you would improve your
health and your ability to succeed. But that means optimism in
the scientific sense of the word, which has nothing to do with
positive thinking or looking on the bright side. Positive thinking
is great, but it isn't as important, as valuable, or as fundamental
as optimism.
Optimism
means explaining setbacks to yourself in a way that gives you
strength, resilience, and determination. An optimistic explanatory
style leads to a fighting spirit in the face of disappointments
rather than a feeling of defeat or giving up.
The three most important areas of your
explanatory style are:
1. Temporary
2. Changeable
3. Specific
When you feel a negative emotion, pay attention
to your negative thoughts. Have you mistakenly concluded a setback
is permanent or unalterable? Have you made any overgeneralizations?
The best way to examine your thoughts is by writing them down.
The simple rule to follow is:
Form the habit of criticizing
your negative thoughts whenever they occur. |