IN HIS BOOK Grinding it Out, Ray Kroc, the man who made
McDonalds what it is today, wrote about his father. Kroc
senior was a hard-working man who was doing well in real estate
before the Depression, expanding his holdings and using credit
to extend himself even further. When the market collapsed,
he was crushed beneath a pile of deeds he could not sell,
wrote Kroc. The land they described was worth less than
he owed. This was an unbearable situation for a man of my fathers
principled conservatism. He died of a cerebral hemorrhage in
1930. He had worried himself to death. On his desk the day he
died were two pieces of paper his last paycheck from the
telegraph company and a garnishment notice for the entire amount
of his wages.
Bad stuff happens, and sometimes its
big. You dont want it to crush you. You want to be strong.
So start now taking every small bad thing that happens as an
opportunity to repeat this idea to yourself:
There will be an advantage in this.
I will find it or I will make it.
Repeat it until you see or can make an
advantage out of it. If you will do this, you will stand as a
fortress of strength for your family in situations that would
make lesser men and women collapse in hopelessness. This idea
is not some namby-pamby, rah-rah, positive-thinking nonsense.
It is a source of tremendous strength. It may save your life
some day. For sure it will be good for your health. Ingrain that
thought make that pathway through your brain well-worn
and youll be able to face up to difficulties that
would make a mere mortal crawl and whimper.
Arnold Schwarzenegger is more successful
than most people know. Hes made a lot of money with his
films and married a Kennedy, but hes also a smart and successful
businessman outside of the movie business, with real estate,
books, restaurants, and fitness clubs. He is hugely successful.
In his autobiography, he wrote,
I didnt get certain things I needed
as a child, and that, I think, finally made me hungry for achievement...If
Id gotten everything and been well-balanced, I wouldnt
have had my drive. [Because of] this negative element in my upbringing,
I had a positive drive toward success...
He held up under the strain and turned
it to his advantage. He didnt let it crush him because
of the way he thinks. This strength is within your grasp:
Find or make an advantage in everything that happens.
Find a way to turn your problems
into an advantage.