I'D DONE A LOT OF WALKING in the last two
days and my feet hurt. Of course, I didnt like it. Its
obviously a sign Im getting old. Its a bad thing.
But maybe its good, I said to myself, in
fact, maybe its perfect. Maybe its strengthening
the bones in my feet and when Im old Ill be able
to walk a lot longer.
I dont know how itll turn out.
But since sore feet cause pain, I was automatically against it.
But if I knew the pain was doing something good, I would feel
different about it. It wouldnt be so bad.
We dont know what the future holds.
It is always a possibility that the thing you hate so much right
now is something youll be happy for later. You dont
know. Therefore it is counterproductive to ever pass a negative
judgment on anything that happens to you.
Its counterproductive for several
reasons: First of all, you dont really know if it
will turn out in your favor, so passing a negative judgment is
putting confidence in an improvable and possibly false guess.
And that, of course, is not straight thinking.
Second, it puts you in a bad mood to pass
a negative judgment like that and bad moods are bad for your
health, bad for your relationships, and no fun.
Third, according to research at Cornell
University, our minds find it easier to confirm a judgment
than to disconfirm it. When you conclude something is
bad, your judgment will alter the way you perceive your life
in a way that confirms your conclusion.
The good news is, when you judge something
as good, your mind works to confirm that judgment also. When
you decide maybe this is something good in disguise,
you release the creativity in your brain to find ways
its good not only thinking of new ways to look at
the situation, but thinking of ideas you can put into action
that will make lemonade out of this lemon. When you conclude
its bad, you slam the door on those ways, and they become
unavailable to you.
When something happens anything
before you pass judgment, consider this: It may be good.
No matter what happens, assume