IF JOE AND PETE ARE FRIENDS, they must
have something in common: they went to the same school, work
in the same place, etc. There are lots of possible things to
have in common, but there is one that really makes a difference
one factor which, if it is held in common by Joe and Pete,
can make them close friends.
That factor is purpose (aim, intention).
If Joe and Pete are both strongly interested in the same
purpose, they can be close friends.
So in order to have a close friend, you
have to know what your own strongest interest is. What fires
you up with passion for the subject? What do you love to talk
about? What do you love to read about? What do you love to do?
What do you strongly desire? When you know the answers
to these questions, and when the answers are not a big list of
things, but one major one, youve found your purpose.
Now that you know what your main intention
or interest is, you can look at your friends and see which one
or ones share that interest. Then, to get closer, you simply
make the friendship center around that interest. Do things together
along the lines of that interest; learn things about it and share
what youve learned with your friend; empower each other
and encourage each other to persist along those lines when the
going gets tough. Do this and if youre honest with your
friend, you can have a very close, warm friendship...a lifetime
If you look at your friends and none of
them share your purpose, join clubs and associations that specialize
in your interest area. Go to classes and meetings that center
around your interest. Your chances are pretty good that youll
find a friend who can become a close friend. And a close friend
is the best thing in the world for your health and happiness.
Find and cultivate a friendship
centers around your strongest interest.