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METTLE IS A WORD you dont hear much
these days. It means a strength of mind that gives you the ability
to withstand pain or difficulties with bravery and resolution.
Mettle is a quality we all admire. But it isnt something
you are born with. It must be developed. It is strengthened
by the way you conduct your everyday life. Specifically, mettle
is created by daily making the decision to:
Remain loyal to your comrades. We are social creatures, and when you violate this
cannon, you wound yourself at the core. If you are married and
find yourself flirting with someone at work, make the decision
to remain loyal to your spouse, even if it means not getting
the admiring eyes of another. If someone is bad-mouthing a friend
of yours behind their back, defend them in their absence. When
you have committed yourself to someone, whoever they are, remain
true to them. This is one of the deepest principles of integrity.
Speak honestly and directly. We live in a world of appearances and game-playing.
It is one of the things that makes the world a crazy place and
produces so much stress. More honesty in the world is needed
and wanted, from the smallest level all the way up. Honesty requires
courage, and it exacts a price. And although you will never be
perfectly honest, you can always improve. It is the effort
to increase your integrity that forges mettle.
Keep your word.
Be careful about what you promise or what promises you imply.
Be very clear with others about what they can expect from you
and clear and careful with yourself about what you can expect
from yourself. And then do everything you can to never disappoint.
Keep your word. Think of your word as sacred and treat it so.
It produces one of the finest experiences known to humankind:
trust. People will learn they can count on you, and you
will learn you can count on yourself.
These are the Three Commandments of Mettle.
Courage may seem like an ancient and unneeded quality in our
pampered modern era, but now we need it more than ever. The human
race is controlling the destiny of all living things on earth,
and what is needed is human integrity. The place to start is
your own. The time to start is now. Give your spouse and children
an example to emulate and you will be doing the most concrete
good you can for the future of the planet.
To forge mettle:
Remain loyal to your comrades,
speak honestly and directly, and keep your word.
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