AS LONG AS YOU are trying to connect with
people, you will be growing, expanding, and learning. You will
never have it mastered. If you're truly trying to connect, you'll
never become complacent even if you only talked with one
person. You can always go deeper and she is always changing.
There is always more to learn about her, about the way you talk,
about how to listen well, about what makes a conversation meaningful,
and on and on. Connecting is endlessly challenging.
Does this seem impossible? How come you
can learn all about how to fix a car but not ever in your whole
lifetime learn all there is to know about cultivating closeness
with someone? Because there is an infinite amount to know. Because
both you and your mate are growing and changing, so what you
know today may not be worth much a year from now. Because love
A good conversation is always full of discovery,
always stimulating and challenging, always instructive.
You will find the endless discovery one
of the best things about connecting. And having this endless-challenge
attitude will make it come true. Having the attitude that you
know your mate like a book and can predict her will also tend
to make that come true and you'll stop trying to know her. How
sad. Go for the challenge. Be willing to constantly learn and
try as you connect, and you'll be happier.