THE FOLLOWING PRINCIPLES are from the book
Self-Help Stuff That Works. Choose one principle
to practice for now. Pick one that excites you to contemplate.
Write the principle on a card and carry it with you for a week
or so, actively trying to practice that principle at every opportunity.
Then stop practicing it consciously. The skill or point of view
will become available to you when you need it.
When bad happens:
Assume it wont last long,
look to see what isnt affected,
and dont indulge in self-blame.
When good happens:
Consider its effects permanent,
see how much of your life is affected,
and look to see how much you can take credit for.
Become more optimistic.
Talk to yourself in a confident, reassuring, positive way.
Do some honest good in the world.
Come up with alternative ways
of interpreting an event.
Change the details of your thoughts.
Tell yourself you can handle it.
No matter what happens, assume its good.
Keep persisting until the change you want happens.
Describe upsetting situations to yourself
in emotionally neutral words.
Control what is your responsibility.
Direct your thoughts to what
you appreciate and say it.
If your own greed is making you discontent,
quit cramming so much into your days.
Direct your mind by asking yourself a good question.
When something bad happens,
say to yourself, Thats good!
Relieve negative feelings by turning your attention to purposeful
Let go of an idea that causes you needless stress.
Find a way to turn your problems into an advantage.
Interpret events in a way that helps you.
Wonder about what good things might be happening.
Be skeptical of your feelings of certainty.
When you hit a setback in life:
Assume the problem or its consequences wont last long,
see how you can prevent the same problem in the future,
and dont jump to the conclusion that this setback will
To improve your self-esteem:
Gain more ability,
become more honest,
do something worthwhile,
and acknowledge people.
Make up your mind you will succeed.
Think thoughts that give you strength and make you tough.
Act as though you already feel the way you want to feel.
Remind yourself you dont need much to be happy.
Fortify your integrity.
Breathe deeply, loosen tensed muscles,
and say to yourself, Relax.
Pursue the interests that make you come alive.
Criticize the assumptions behind your negative feelings.
To turn good ideas into real change, use repetition.
Improve yourself, but also relax and enjoy the ride.
Reminisce about the best times.
Ask yourself, How is this like an adventure?
Find a purpose that enthralls you and then actively pursue it.
When youre angry, argue with yourself first.
Clear your head and relax by going for a long walk.
Instead of asking why you have a problem,
ask how you can get what you want.
To become happier:
Strengthen your integrity,
get better control of your time,
become more optimistic,
and practice good human relations.
Ask yourself and keep asking, Given my upbringing and circumstances,
what Good am I especially qualified to do?