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This is one of "22
virus definitions" (thought-mistakes that cause ineffectiveness
and unnecessary negative emotions).
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BECAUSE you can ask a question doesn’t mean it has an answer.
What’s north of the North Pole? What’s the best chess
move to make? Those are essentially meaningless questions, even
though they are well-formed grammatically.
The same is true of questions like, "What
are they thinking about me?" or "Why aren't people
buying my product?" These questions are not answerable from
inside your head, so they will go round and round, upsetting
you and getting you nowhere. Those two questions can only be
answered by asking someone else.
"Why am I so committed to failure?"
That may or may not be answerable, but I'll tell you this: You'll
never know if you got the "right" answer. A much more
productive thing to do with why questions of that sort are to
instead ask HOW. Read
more about that here.
Be very careful with the questions you
ask yourself. Questions have a powerful way of generating trains of thought, so the questions
you ask make a big difference.
When you feel discouraged by a setback,
keep your eye out for unanswerable questions and replace them
with questions you can answer, such as, "What will I do
today to move my goal forward?"
This article is part of the series, Antivirus For Your Mind.
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